For women tired of trying to decode mixed signals
He Likes You. But Is He Choosing You?
Learn how to read attraction, effort, sex, and commitment using the Relationship Intelligence System, so you can stop confusing attention with intention.
by André Murphy
Being wanted is not the same as being chosen.
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About the Book
Attraction can be real. Chemistry can be intense. Attention can feel meaningful. But none of those things automatically mean a person is choosing a relationship with you.
He Likes You. But Is He Choosing You? introduces the Relationship Intelligence System, or RIS, a practical educational framework for evaluating attraction, mutuality, trust, desire, connection, compatibility, commitment, and relationship health using evidence rather than wishful thinking.
The book helps readers recognize what is actually happening in a relationship, separate hope from evidence, identify recurring patterns, and make clearer decisions about what to do next.
He can genuinely like you and still not be choosing you.
Attention can be real. Chemistry can be intense. Sex can create attachment. Daily texting can feel meaningful. Emotional closeness can make a relationship feel more committed than it actually is.
The question is not simply whether he likes you. The question is what his behavior is actually building.
What This Book Helps You Do
- 01
Separate attraction from commitment
Someone wanting you does not automatically mean they are building with you.
- 02
Distinguish attention from investment
Learn which behaviors actually carry relationship weight.
- 03
Read patterns instead of isolated moments
Stop allowing one great weekend or romantic conversation to erase weeks of inconsistency.
- 04
Evaluate words against behavior
Learn where promises belong in the evidence hierarchy.
- 05
Recognize chemistry without overvaluing it
Desire matters. It just cannot answer every relationship question.
- 06
Know what to do next
Clarify, continue, observe, set a boundary, reduce investment, or move on with greater confidence.
Stop Guessing. Start Reading the Evidence.
The Relationship Intelligence System helps you evaluate what is actually happening across eight dimensions of a relationship, rather than making high-stakes decisions from chemistry, hope, promises, or isolated moments.
- I
Attraction
- II
Mutuality
- III
Trust & Safety
- IV
Desire & Sex
- V
Connection
- VI
Compatibility
- VII
Intent & Commitment
- VIII
Relationship Health
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Book Details
- Title
- He Likes You. But Is He Choosing You?
- Subtitle
- How to Read Attraction, Effort, Sex, and Commitment Without Fooling Yourself
- Author
- André Murphy
- Publisher
- Ash & Echo Press
- Format
- Digital Edition
- Publication date
- October 1, 2026
- Category
- Relationships
About André Murphy
André Murphy is the creator of the Relationship Intelligence System, an educational decision framework designed to help readers evaluate romantic relationships using evidence, patterns, and clarity.
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